The Cheater
Posted on June 11, 2008
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A good friend of my husband recently found out that his wife has been cheating on him for about 10 months. This is something that I just don’t understand. When my husband and I got married we made a vow to each other that we would respect the other person enough to leave before we cheated. Cheating has to be one of the most hurtful and hateful acts one can do to another.
As far as we are aware, there was really nothing “wrong” with their marriage. They seemed to have a great time together when ever we were with them. They seemed to be in love. So what causes people to cheat? Why not just end your marriage first?
I recognize that I’m not perfect, nor is my marriage. My husband and I did contemplate divorce when we were struggling with infertility. We had differing goals and neither one of us would budge. It was a great source of conflict and seemed irreconcilable. Then one day, we agreed on trying to achieve the same goal and remain married. I’m sure there were times just 3 years ago when my husband had wished we had made the decision to split, as I know I had that thought. However, I am so grateful that we didn’t get a divorce and stuck out our marriage because today we are happy.
Is marriage easy? Hell no. It’s about compromise. It’s about supporting each other during your darkest days. It’s about loving and respecting each other. Marriage can be joyful, but it requires you to work and you must create your happiness together. If you are unhappy in your marriage it is your fault and only you can change your mindset or do something about it.
So, for Mrs. B (although Mrs. C might be a better fit in this case) don’t blame Mr. M for your unhappiness. Take responsibility for YOUR own actions.
Am I wrong?
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I agree! If you decide to get married, then have enough respect for your partner and your vows to leave before you cheat. And if you think you might want to cheat then don’t get married! NCLM