Creating Holiday Joy (Podcast Episode 19)
Posted on December 5, 2008
It’s that time of year when everyone is full of holiday cheer – or at least that is the hope. However, holidays can be very stressful. It’s the time when family members get together, some for the first time since the last holiday season. The holidays are extra stressful because people say or do things that can hurt our feelings, unbeknown to them, because we don’t keep our family and friends updated on what is going on in our lives.
This week I received an email from one of my husband’s friend’s wife. She told me that she had no idea all that we had been through with infertility. She said she thought something was up because we were pregnant with twins. Then she had no idea about all of the stress we experienced with their early birth. Keep in mind, this email is coming to me 4 years later.
Our family and friends should be our support system. I didn’t do a good job of utilizing my family during our infertility, but I recognize now that had I done so it would have been so much easier for Dave and me. Hopefully you can avoid some of my mistakes and look at this time of year as an opportunity to let your family into your world. Even if they don’t “get it” or they don’t know how to offer you support, you’ve done your part to keep them involved.
For more tips on how to enjoy the holiday season, read this 8 page compilation of stories from RESOLVE.
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I’m 50-50 on the idea of involving family more – sometimes I wish I hadn’t told some of my family members because they’re less supportive than I’d hope and it would be easier if they didn’t know, but at the time it didn’t seem fair to tell my sister but not my mother, for example, so I told them all (after about 18 months of trying). Sometimes having it all as our own little problem would be simpler.