Would You Donate Money For Someone Else to Have a Baby????
Posted on February 19, 2008
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Yesterday a friend of mine sent me an email about a couple trying to raise funds for their upcoming infertility treatments. The couple already have children of their own, all conceived naturally. They want to add one more child to their family; however, the woman cannot conceive or carry a baby. They are seeking an egg donor and a surrogate. The media is all over this story. I don’t get it.
Here are my issues with this. They are trying to raise money through donations. Why not raise money by doing something productive or selling products? A car wash, a bake sale, a yard sale or make jewelry. None of the money donated to this family will qualify for charitable deductions on your taxes. And how about adoption? It makes more sense to me in this case than a surrogate.
What frustrates me is that this couple will probably raise the money they need for these services, which is a lot! Yet, I’ll struggle to raise $2,000 for the March of Dimes between now and April. Truly, I’d rather donate money to a couple who doesn’t have a child yet. Just yesterday I purchased a beaded watch from a friend selling jewelry to help offset the cost of their IVF cycle. My purchase will only offer them a few dollars, but if a lot of people buy a little something it will help them a lot. I’d rather help those (financially) still trying to build their families rather than those trying to ADD to it.
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I’m of two sides on this one. I mean, if I could just go and ask for the money I need, then why shouldn’t I? I don’t think the issue should be with the family doing the asking, but rather with those choosing to put up the funds. Pick your issues and back them however you can. I’d assume those contributing funds to this project are doing so knowing that the dollar they give to this couple isn’t going to be helping with other ( perhaps more “worthy”) causes like the March of Dimes.
I think asking family, friends, etc. is fine. This couple was actually asking the general public to donate money to their cause - I guess it doesn’t hurt to ask and the “ask” happens a lot when someone looses a loved one (at least the news does this a lot in Arizona). I agree with the approach by Mel at Stirrup Queen’s U.T.E.R.U.S., for some reason that seems more appropriate to me.