Twin Overload
Posted on September 12, 2008
Yesterday I enjoyed a short outing at the mall with a friend of mine who has twin boys (IVFers). It was fun to see how people ooh-and-aah over baby twins versus my almost 4-year olds. It was one of the first times I’ve been out in public where people haven’t been staring at me or my daughters and I must say it was a nice change!
My friend, Sally, is currently in twin overload. It’s what I refer to as the complete exhaustion of having two babies at once. At some point after you’ve been parenting two at once you get so gosh-darn tired that you can barely function. This is where Sally is right now. The last few times I’ve talked with her she has made a point to let me know how tired she is. I’m am so thankful we survived those days and can totally appreciate where she is coming from.
No matter what I say on my blog, or what resources I provide, I know that women going through fertility treatment are longing for a baby, or two or three. They want to be pregnant so bad that they’ll take the chance of a twin pregnancy or even triplets. I understand, I was there too. But I hope that you’ll go into your IVF cycle with more awareness about the risks of twins than my husband and I did.
Anyway, as I was listening to the Benedict Family’s podcast yesterday (they changed the name of it and I cannot remember what they call it now) they were providing the results of their survey. I was surprised and thankful to hear that the majority of the voters would choose 2 embryos to transfer during an IVF cycle rather than 3 or more. Very few voters chose the option of 1 embryo during a transfer, which I can appreciate and totally understand.
My point, even as your twins age and things become easier there will still be those days where you are physically drained (and sometimes emotionally too). Having two children at the same age presents many different challenges than having two children at different ages. And while having a set of twins can be fun, there are truly many advantages to having a single baby (like not having both of your kids start school at the same time – something I’m truly dreading!).
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Kelly, thank you for your continued listening to our podcast. We did change the name and it’s now just “The Infertility Podcast”
I just came across your blog, through ICLW! I too have IVF twin boys and an IVF girl. I am looking forward to reading more on your blog!
Loved your post. I have a daughter (4 yrs),identical twin boys (2 yrs) and just found out I am pregnant again. My husband and were just musing over how much easier it is to have one baby at a time. After making it through the sleep depirvation months with our twins, we feel like we could handle another singleton with our eyes closed! LOL!!
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I have always told my dh that the thought of twins (or more) is really scary to me. I mean intensely scary. Our four year old, who I adore, nearly wears me out, I can’t imagine what it must be like to have two of them running around. My hats off to you. I am afraid that I would be woefully inadequate to parent multiples.