Comments on: The Pregnancy Debate http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/ Bridging the gap between patients and providers with health literacy tips and information. Wed, 07 Mar 2012 23:25:11 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: PJ http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/comment-page-1/#comment-517 PJ Thu, 19 Jun 2008 03:56:08 +0000 http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/#comment-517 I'll just bet that blogger that you were talking about was Denise at http://freezerbuns.blogspot.com/ She is fantastic, and very sensitive to others. The nurse told her to bring the babies in after she delivers, and she explained that she wouldn't be doing that so as to save the women who are in the clinic from the reminder. Once I was sitting in the RE's and a former patient brought in her baby. I was a little offended at first, but then realized that what it means is, that sometimes all of this IF treatment stuff actually works! Denise also happens to really be struggling with her first trimester. My heart goes out to her. I’ll just bet that blogger that you were talking about was Denise at http://freezerbuns.blogspot.com/

She is fantastic, and very sensitive to others. The nurse told her to bring the babies in after she delivers, and she explained that she wouldn’t be doing that so as to save the women who are in the clinic from the reminder.

Once I was sitting in the RE’s and a former patient brought in her baby. I was a little offended at first, but then realized that what it means is, that sometimes all of this IF treatment stuff actually works!

Denise also happens to really be struggling with her first trimester. My heart goes out to her.

]]> By: baby http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/comment-page-1/#comment-503 baby Wed, 18 Jun 2008 05:44:42 +0000 http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/#comment-503 Nice website!! Nice website!!

]]> By: Kelly http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/comment-page-1/#comment-430 Kelly Thu, 12 Jun 2008 04:56:27 +0000 http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/#comment-430 Trish, thanks for your comments. I think we all have to navigate how we tell others when we become pregnant. I had friends who didn't want me to find out they were pregnant because they thought it would hurt my feelings and it made me sad and angry to be treated this way. Usually I was very happy for most people, but there were those one or two cases where I was so sad for me and couldn't be happy for them. It's a tough topic and one I think we'll continue to struggle with. Hairy Farmer - it is nice to see IF blogs turn to mommy blogs and you are right it is the end goal. I feel the same as you do, I love talking about my twins but the havoc it played in my life (mainly my marriage) is something I'll never forget. Trish, thanks for your comments. I think we all have to navigate how we tell others when we become pregnant. I had friends who didn’t want me to find out they were pregnant because they thought it would hurt my feelings and it made me sad and angry to be treated this way. Usually I was very happy for most people, but there were those one or two cases where I was so sad for me and couldn’t be happy for them. It’s a tough topic and one I think we’ll continue to struggle with.

Hairy Farmer – it is nice to see IF blogs turn to mommy blogs and you are right it is the end goal. I feel the same as you do, I love talking about my twins but the havoc it played in my life (mainly my marriage) is something I’ll never forget.

]]> By: Hairy Farmer Family http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/comment-page-1/#comment-428 Hairy Farmer Family Wed, 11 Jun 2008 22:45:40 +0000 http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/#comment-428 Infertility blogs transforming into Mummy blogs is, happily, often an inherent feature of the genre. Unhappily, this generally means that a group of IF bloggy friends will have some of their number succeeding in their common goal, whilst others are still on the miserable not-so-merry-go-round. When friends and family become pregnant it's difficult to blot out, but you can always stop reading or commenting on a blog that no longer helps you feel positive about each other. Having said that, I can't understand how anyone who has really been through the IF mill can forget, or turn her back on it. I love blogging about my baby, but I am still very alive to the reproductive disasters that preceded him. Infertility blogs transforming into Mummy blogs is, happily, often an inherent feature of the genre. Unhappily, this generally means that a group of IF bloggy friends will have some of their number succeeding in their common goal, whilst others are still on the miserable not-so-merry-go-round.

When friends and family become pregnant it’s difficult to blot out, but you can always stop reading or commenting on a blog that no longer helps you feel positive about each other. Having said that, I can’t understand how anyone who has really been through the IF mill can forget, or turn her back on it. I love blogging about my baby, but I am still very alive to the reproductive disasters that preceded him.

]]> By: Trish http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/comment-page-1/#comment-420 Trish Wed, 11 Jun 2008 10:34:32 +0000 http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/#comment-420 thanks for the mention and I will not forget my IF friends and friends who have lost precious little ones. Speaking from my point of view - it is hard to break the good news of pregnancy to those you know are not and still struggling with infertility both online and in real life.I know of people who said how offended they were that their pregnant friend didn't tell the news but let someone else pass it on. The pregnant person just didn't know what to say knowing it would upset the other person anyway they told them. I saw it on IVF forums when they would ask everyone not to post congratulations and use too many happy smileys etc. Some people would get offended by the hype and others were truly excited to see someone make it to other side. The NCLM has been very eye opening again for me. An insight into the pain of infertility. thanks for the mention and I will not forget my IF friends and friends who have lost precious little ones.

Speaking from my point of view – it is hard to break the good news of pregnancy to those you know are not and still struggling with infertility both online and in real life.I know of people who said how offended they were that their pregnant friend didn’t tell the news but let someone else pass it on.
The pregnant person just didn’t know what to say knowing it would upset the other person anyway they told them.

I saw it on IVF forums when they would ask everyone not to post congratulations and use too many happy smileys etc. Some people would get offended by the hype and others were truly excited to see someone make it to other side.

The NCLM has been very eye opening again for me. An insight into the pain of infertility.

]]> By: Meryl Rose http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/comment-page-1/#comment-415 Meryl Rose Tue, 10 Jun 2008 23:53:10 +0000 http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/#comment-415 Love this post!! Gosh - so right on the money. Its amazing how pregnancy and children can really divide women. I am amazed at how often the working versus non-working mom argument comes up - soooo much emotion on either side of the coin! Love this post!! Gosh – so right on the money. Its amazing how pregnancy and children can really divide women. I am amazed at how often the working versus non-working mom argument comes up – soooo much emotion on either side of the coin!

]]> By: Kelly http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/comment-page-1/#comment-402 Kelly Tue, 10 Jun 2008 00:19:19 +0000 http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/#comment-402 DC- agree with the IF amnesia comment. One of my friends dumped me when she became pregnant - I was hurt and vowed not do to it to others still in the journey. DC- agree with the IF amnesia comment. One of my friends dumped me when she became pregnant – I was hurt and vowed not do to it to others still in the journey.

]]> By: A Soldier's Girl http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/comment-page-1/#comment-401 A Soldier's Girl Mon, 09 Jun 2008 23:35:11 +0000 http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/#comment-401 I agree 110%! We will be starting the IVF process soon & so far I love reading stories about successes...gives me hope. But, I can also understand how that could be hurtful, especially after failed attempts. You are absolutely right, we should all support eachother though no matter how hard it may be! I agree 110%!

We will be starting the IVF process soon & so far I love reading stories about successes…gives me hope. But, I can also understand how that could be hurtful, especially after failed attempts.

You are absolutely right, we should all support eachother though no matter how hard it may be!

]]> By: DC http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/comment-page-1/#comment-400 DC Mon, 09 Jun 2008 23:27:08 +0000 http://twinpeas.com/wordpress/infertility/the-pregnancy-debate/80/#comment-400 IF success stories give me hope, but I do get annoyed when infertiles get pregnant and instantly develop IF amnesia. IF success stories give me hope, but I do get annoyed when infertiles get pregnant and instantly develop IF amnesia.

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