What better topic to write about than love?

Infertility is one example of many of extreme adversity that can strain a marriage and cause stress and hurt feelings.

I believe one of the most important things for people to focus on in such times of strain is communication. If people are talking openly and honestly about their feelings, things are less likely to fester and people are less likely to misunderstand each other. I think communication is really important.

Also, I think sometimes couples need to remember the obvious… that they need to work as a team. It may sound like common sense but the fact is that sometimes severe adversity pits one partner against another. Clearly if they are working against each other rather than as a team it is going to be an uphill battle.

I also think it’s important for couples to have “dates” or some sort of special time together without anyone else. Too often people’s “dates” get less and less frequent over the years and then they wonder why they are drifting apart. Time together needs to be invested. It’s too easy to take each other for granted otherwise.

I agree with you, though, that the more years go by the stronger I feel the bond with my husband become. Without listing ad nauseum the list of adverse events that we have dealt with (just picture a soap opera and then multiply a few times to get to the drama level), I can honestly say that I feel closer to him now than ever.

Love is a very powerful thing indeed. It needs to be nurtured and respected.

Great post!

Jeanne