He Should Know Better
Posted on September 22, 2009
Last week my husband was telling me a story and when he finished I told him that I was disappointed in him. He looked at me like I was a freak – how, he wondered, did I not think his story was funny. We’ll I’ll let you be the judge.
My husband and a friend of his were discussing a business owner, Robert. Robert loves the idea of outsourcing. He sees tremendous cost savings in one of his business lines by outsourcing a particular function. My husband and his friend don’t necessarily agree with his logic, but they agree he makes some valid points. Robert has two children, both adopted from China. My husband’s friend, who has never experienced infertility, says “Obviously this guy loves outsourcing, he outsourced his entire family.”
When my husband relayed this story I gasped out loud. I was incensed by the total lack of compassion by both of these men, especially my husband who should know better. I say, “I’m guessing Robert and his wife experienced infertility and they chose adoption to build their family.” My husband says, “You don’t know that. Maybe they just chose to adopt.” Seriously?!?
Then, we are at a business/personal function for one of my husband’s clients. My husband asks one of the men there when he and his wife plan on having kids. This couple has been married for 5 years. I’m standing there in shock. Shouldn’t my husband know better than to ask this kind of question. Or do men have a totally different mindset – or did he forget that we once dealt with infertility!?!
My husband has a serious case of infertility amnesia. When I gave my opinion on these two things he just shrugged. He said its just the difference between how we have processed our infertility as well as our differing male/female views on the topic. Oh well. What can you do?
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Yes that is a bit insensitive of him! Infertility is a bad thing to go through, he should have stopped to think before he said that.