Fret Not
Posted on June 15, 2009
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Okay, so not fretting when you are experiencing a health crisis can be a joke. I’ve been through a few of them and remaining clam wasn’t something I always did well. Even my husband, who is totally laid-back, started to fret or at least make a bigger deal out of his recent lab results than was necessary. It’s human nature. But it’s not productive. Been there, done that.
When my husband and I were diagnosed with our infertility I was obsessed in seeking out the ‘why’ and the ‘now what’ answers. Every answer I found only lead me to become more distraught over our situation. That was until we met our doctor. He was so confident that he could help us and his demeanor helped improve my outlook on the procedures. Once we started our IVF cycle, I was no longer obsessed. I stopped focusing on the negativity of our infertility. I gave up the need, the desire, to know absolutely everything about our treatment, the drugs, the tests, etc. Once I let go, the process unfolded fairly easily. I had been standing in my own way. (I do this a lot in other areas of my life too).
So, when we our twins were born premature and had to be hospitalized for a length of time, I trusted the process. That doesn’t mean I didn’t ask the doctors and nurses a ton of questions. Instead, I found myself acting as though I was part of my daughters medical team. I found that by doing this, even though I was worried about their daily progress, I worried less than I might have otherwise. Empowered with information, I wasn’t obsessed about learning everything that could go wrong with a 30 week baby. When my daughter Copy Cat became ill, I used the knowledge from the doctors and nurses as my guide, not the Internet. I was stressed out. I was scared for their health and survival. But I was grounded and realistic.
While it is challenging not to fret about all that is wrong or all that could wrong, studies prove that stress and negativity only make the situation worse. I’m not going to tell you to relax as I see a big difference between relaxing and fretting! Although relaxing might help, good luck doing so if you are struggling with infertility or your baby is in the hospital. The worry, though, is something that is easier to manage – at least I found that to be the case.
What do you do to stop the worry? When you get upset, how to do come back down?
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